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2 y/o and upcoming newborn questions
by the great almighty something or other (autumnleaf77)
at June 25th, 2008 (11:27 am)
curious

current mood: curious

it's been pretty quiet here but i'm hoping someone has had experience with having 2 little ones and can offer suggestions.  :-)  firstly, my daughter who is 27 months has "rediscovered" my breasts.  she weaned herself around 20 months or so (probably due to milk taste changes due to pregnancy) and that was that until recently.  i'm guessing it's partly due to the fact that it's warm and my tank tops are lower cut than other shirts.  but she's back on a kick of patting them and trying to lower my shirt so she can use them as a pillow and other random things.  which really isn't a big deal but being pregnant i'm all wonky and get tired of being pawed at.  anything i can do to encourage her to do something else?  she never got stuck on any sort of lovey or anything so i'm not sure what to try.  but this rediscovery also has me concerned about what she may thing when the baby comes and gets to breastfeed.  we've kind of talked about it (she'll point to my breasts and say something about that's where milk comes from) but at her age, i'm not sure how much she actually fully understands about a baby being in the house and getting to have milk.  with my first, after i had my daughter, he asked to breastfeed maybe twice and then when i actually got him on my lap he pretty much giggled and left.  but he was 3.  at 2, can she really understand that the baby gets priority when it comes to having milk?  i've only got about 3 weeks left until #3 is supposed to arrive so i'm trying to prepare myself mentally for any situation that may crop up.  tia!

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Posted by: Crisco J. Disco (crisco)
Posted at: June 25th, 2008 11:17 pm (UTC)
momma cko

My daughter stopped nursing cold turkey in January. Few months later she'd randomly grab my shirt, peek down and giggle. She'd flop/cuddle on my chest as well, but hasn't ever tried nursing again. I just had my son a week ago and was really worried about how she'd handle him nursing. So far we haven't had any problems aside from her deciding the baby needs to be read to or entertained while nursing. This afternoon when it was time to nurse she was like "mmmm" and made the lip smacking noise, but no interest in hopping on herself. I have no idea what concepts a 2 year old can really get when it comes to nursing.. With us my daughter knows that's where baby eats and has left it at that.

I don't know if that's helpful or not.. Just thought I'd share our current experience with a simmilar situation :) Best of luck to ya with the rest of your pregnancy.. Here's to a quick and easy delivery!

Posted by: Crisco J. Disco (crisco)
Posted at: June 25th, 2008 11:18 pm (UTC)
oo..btw
momma cko

My daughter is also two.. Hit that the day after I delivered so I can understand where you're comming from wondering how things will go introducing a new family member to someone that age :)

Posted by: the great almighty something or other (autumnleaf77)
Posted at: June 27th, 2008 01:57 pm (UTC)
Re: oo..btw
baby

every story helps. thanks!

Posted by: somedeepmystery (thegranddewru)
Posted at: August 20th, 2008 07:55 pm (UTC)
Alan heart

Hi!

This is an older post but I just happened to be dropping by and I have a story for this age group. I hope you don't mind. :)

My daughter (also 2nd child) weaned at 15 mo, not because she really wanted, but there were some issues that lead to my milk drying up before either of us were ready...

She was 22mo when my third child was born and at one point she did want to nurse. I let her up on my lap and let her have a go while I was nursing the baby on the other side.

She held the nipple in her mouth but she didn't seem to remember how and she just sat there for while and then got down and seemed to move on.

If your daughter did start nursing again, you would have enough milk for her and baby, and she would still benefit from all the goodness. :p (would probably help with engorgement but I can't say that from experience)

Maybe keeping snacks for her close at hand while baby is nursing so that you can offer it to her while she "waits" for baby to finish and likely she'll forget about it by then. If not and you're okay with it, you can give her that time after baby is asleep, or some other special non- nursing time.

As far as the snuggling and patting of your breasts, she probably remembers them as a place of love and comfort. Maybe she just misses the skin contact. Finding out what she's getting from the contact will help you find ways to accommodate both of you.

Whoa! That was longer than I intended!

Posted by: the great almighty something or other (autumnleaf77)
Posted at: August 20th, 2008 08:12 pm (UTC)
William

i appreciate the input! so far she hasn't asked for milk which actually surprised me. i thought she'd be all over it. but i think she may be too infatuated with her new brother. she's moved from touching me all the time to touching him all the time. :-) i think she's liking trying to play mommy. just today i found her leaning over him on the floor starting to lift up her shirt! and she's already tried to feed her dolls that way.

Posted by: somedeepmystery (thegranddewru)
Posted at: August 20th, 2008 09:19 pm (UTC)
{People} Mac Oh Ones!

That is so sweet! I have pictures of my daughter bfing her doll. I love them.

I'm glad things seem to going well and that she's happy with baby.

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