I just had my second child, she is now about 3 weeks old and I'm getting a lot of pressure to bottle feed her. My partner doesn't think it's appropriate for me to breast feed in public so he is constantly suggesting that I bring bottles when we go out and he would like to feed her sometimes as well. I'm really uncomfortable with it however, I'm not sure why but it is upsetting for me to see her drinking from a bottle and she doesn't get the same comfort and satisfaction from a bottle. Does anyone have any advice for me on this? What do you all think of bottle feeding a breast fed baby?
I think you should do whatever you're most comfortable with, and if that's nursing when you're out, so be it! There are plenty of other ways your partner can be involved with her-- maybe make bathtime a special ritual for just the two of them to bond? Does your partner realize how easy it is to be discreet while nursing in public? If not, you might want to show them as an example so they can see that it's not really a matter of having your boobs out on display for the world to see. I found that wearing a nursing tank top underneath my regular shirt made it super-easy to be really discreet by lifting my top shirt up and tank top down, so that everything that the baby's head didn't cover was still covered by clothes.At 3 weeks, it's still in the realm of the possibility to create nipple confusion, so if there's no real pressing reason to introduce bottles, I personally wouldn't.
My husband started in the "want to be more involved with feeding the baby" place, but after a few unsuccessful bottle attempts he decided that feeding wasn't really his area of expertise. He found other ways to bond with our son (and later our daughter). As for the nursing in public, you should base your decision entirely on your comfort level. It doesn't matter what other people think. If you decide to try bottles, remember that they flow very differently than the breast.
Have you tried pumping yet? If it's easy for you and it makes everyone more comfortable I'd consider it. Though nipple confusion is still possible at this age. I had to go back to work at 7 weeks though and I successfully introduced a bottle at 4 weeks. Pumping was very hard for me though, and I would have never wasted my hard earned breast milk on being more socially acceptable. I even nursed in my work's breakroom when my hubby brought our son to my lunch and after the guys I worked with realized they couldn't see anything they relaxed and acted normal around me. Since it's your partner it's a hard situation. I used to be uncomfortable around openly nursing moms before I became one, so I can see where he's coming from. I still believe that nursing in public should be completely normal and accepted though. One thing I recommend is a ring sling with a tail and and easy access nursing tops. I nursed my son hands free in a sling with no one the wiser unless they tried to check on my "sleeping" baby. If your partner can barely tell you're nursing he might be less worried. Good luck, it's hard not to have your partner's support.
Thank you so much for your input. I guess it is understandable how he's feeling. It's just frustrating.
With the baby being so young I'd hold off on bottle feeding for awhile. I am still nursing my 13 month old and on the rare occasion I pumped and brought milk with me. But honestly it was so much easier to just breastfeed him. And I HATED it when he drank from a bottle. I had a strong maternal instinct to breastfeed and the bottle made me jealous (and I very much disliked pumping). ((HUGS)) I'm sorry your DH isn't being as supportive about nursing in public. That can be hard because you are worrying about what others are thinking, and if your spouse is uncomfortable too that can be even harder. Again, if you feel bottle feeding won't have long term affects on your BFing relationship (which for lots of moms it does not, but for some it does) then try it. Just know that you are still building your supply and pumping or expressing doesn't yield as much milk.
Yeah I guess that's it... I'm jelous of the bottle.. lol that sounds so silly :)Pumping is really easy for me, but the baby doesn't seem to like the bottle as much as she likes nursing, so I feel like I need to nurse afterwards anyway. so it's just a pain in the ass. Thanks for the comment :)